Deciding to get divorced is a very personal decision, even if you’ve weighed it out by discussing it with others over a long period of time. But just who needs to know about your divorce? And does your employer qualify as someone who should be told? It isn’t required that you tell your boss about your divorce, but it is likely that it will come up in an administrative fashion anyways as you may file alterations to your tax status, human resources paperwork or health care plan.
You might also have to miss some work due to counseling appointments, divorce mediation or court schedules. Finally, you might want to tell your boss about getting a divorce so that he or she understands the difficult challenges you are currently experiencing at home. Avoid being too confessional and never use the divorce as an excuse. Work must go on regardless of what is happening in your personal life. While sharing your details of your divorce can help your boss to better understand what you are going through, you should never use this as an excuse for why your work quality has dropped lately.
You’ll also want to ask your boss if you need to do additional paperwork. You may need to update your details with the human resources department, including those relating to health care and taxes. Finally, let your boss know what he or she can expect. Be honest because this is your opportunity to let your employer know if you need extra attention, understanding or time.
Usually a divorce should not cause you to take time off from work, but your divorce attorney can help you to prepare for what to anticipate and give you plenty of advanced notice about what you can anticipate. Even if you don’t think that your divorce will affect your ability to do your job, it can help to make a difficult situation slightly easier when you let your boss know that you’re going through something.