A new study discovered that having a friend who recently went through a divorce could mean that you are at higher risk of getting one yourself. Researchers from Harvard University, the University of California in San Diego, and Brown University identified that you are 75% more likely to get a divorce if a friend has gotten a divorce, and if a friend of that friend has gotten divorce, your odds of getting a divorce will increase by 33%. One of the leading reasons behind this statistic is that when a close friend gets a divorce, it alerts us to the possibilities and opportunities. People might take a big step back and look at their own lives and reason that if a friend has done it, you can do it too. If you don’t have any personal friends, however, who have gone through the divorce process, the sudden split from a husband or wife can seem shocking and many people may be uncomfortable talking about it altogether.
Some women even report that the tension can last for years. The very conversation of getting a divorce can trigger people who might not otherwise be thinking about ending their marriage to chime in with complaints about their own spouse in an effort to provide sympathy to the loved one or friend going through the challenge. Then if a recently divorced friend begins a new relationship, this can be exciting and fun, which might bring up concerns about a stale marriage.
According to intimacy experts, couples should be spending at least 16 hours of undivided attention together every single week and at least 6 of those hours should be spent outside of the house. Some people have challenges meeting these goals based on their individual schedules or the fact that they have children, but it is definitely something to strive for. If you and your spouse have been trying to get along and to keep the relationship fresh but have been unable to do so, you may be considering divorce and should schedule a consultation with an experienced divorce lawyer.