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Although getting a divorce is challenging, there are many ways you can make it easier on yourself and your family. Follow these 10 do’s and don’ts of getting a divorce and your divorce will go much more smoothly.


  • Bash your ex in front of your kids. You’re frustrated, angry, and overwhelmed, but letting the kids in on your emotional battle will just create one inside them as well. Your spouse will always be your children’s other parent. Find other healthy outlets for your emotions.
  • Hide your finances. It may be tempting to hide assets or obscure your finances, but this can lead to much bigger problems later on. Always be transparent with all of your assets and finances during your divorce case.
  • Air your dirty laundry on social media. In today’s world, social media plays a big part in all of our lives. However, posting about your divorce, whether you think your ex can see it or not, can be detrimental to your case. Keep your divorce out of social media completely.
  • Start dating a lot. Bringing new partners into your home, especially if you have children, can be detrimental to your divorce case.
  • Represent yourself. You always want to have an experienced divorce attorney on your side to provide you with the legal support and advocacy you need.


  • Hire a lawyer right away. A good divorce lawyer can walk you through the process of divorce, including child custody and support issues, so you can navigate the New Jersey family legal system more easily.
  • Keep diligent records of everything. Write down all conversations you have with your ex, when they occurred, what was said, and anything else that may be of importance. Save text messages and emails. They may or may not prove to be important in your case, but you’ll have them if you need them.
  • Get emotional support. Divorces are hard, even if you’re the one who instigated the split. Take time out for yourself and consider getting emotional support from a therapist you trust.
  • Act quickly in the event of domestic violence. If domestic violence has occurred against you or you believe it has occurred against your children, don’t hesitate to act immediately. Your attorney can help you seek the proper protection against violence during a divorce.
  • Have patience. Divorce can be lengthy and frustrating. Be patient with the process and forgiving of yourself.

If you have questions about divorce or are in the middle of getting a divorce, call Rita T. Jerejian, LLC for a consultation at (201) 489-7714.